Editor’s Note: The AMI Quiet Times for March 10th-18th are provided by P. Yohan Lee of Radiance Christian Church.
Devotional Thoughts for Today
1 Sam. 20:34:
34 Jonathan got up from the table in fierce anger; on that second day of the feast he did not eat, because he was grieved at his father’s shameful treatment of David.
For both the good and bad, this generation of young people is a lot different from my generation. A positive example is that kids today don’t seem to be as easily embarrassed by their parents as we were. In fact, kids today want or expect their parents to chauffeur them to and from school; back in my day, I would have rather died than to be caught getting a ride to school from my mom. Now as a somewhat needy and smothering dad, I am hoping that this trend will continue, so that I can walk my kids, hand-in-hand, all the way to their first class when they are seniors in high school.
So when I was a kid, my mom did a ton of things that embarrassed me. We were poor immigrants, and my mom did not know that “American” children didn’t wear the same outfit every day. We never spent money on brown paper lunch bags, so my lunch was either in a large paper shopping bag or a plastic grocery bag—consisting of the “wrong” kinds of food. And of course, we didn’t spend money on haircuts, so thanks to mom, my face was an embarrassment. (Growing up in the 80’s was rough if you were not normal, because outward appearances were so important.)
As I get older, I laugh at those embarrassing things and realize that in the grand scheme of life, I can get over them. Looking back, I had a great mom, who worked hard for me, loved me, and prayed earnestly for me; in other words, I had a respectable mom. Now, let’s just imagine that I had a mother who dressed me like Miami Vice, put the best sandwiches in the right sized bags, and paid for the sweetest feathered haircut. But if she was lazy, selfish, and disinterested, would I be looking back so fondly of her and have respect for her?
You have to feel for Jonathan, because I see this man who was trying to do right by himself, for his friends, and his God; but he had a father who constantly did things to bring shame upon himself and his family. Jonathan was the prince, so Saul could have given him whatever he wanted, except for things that cannot be purchased—like respectability. In the end, what is true for the king is true for the street sweeper: respectability (or shame) is won by character and right actions. Let me ask you this question: Do your children, spouse, or friends see in you a person who is respectable, honest, consistent, etc.? Or do you just have really cool stuff and a lot of money to buy them things? When my children get older, I don’t think I’ll mind if they say, “My dad used to embarrass me in front of my friends with his corny jokes and poor fashion sense.” On the other hand, it would break my heart if they say, “My dad was an embarrassment because he always talked about Christ, but never followed him.” This day, live a faith that your children (even if you don’t have kids) can respect. Know that if you have not been living a life of integrity, it is never too late to start.
Prayer
Lord, please help me to be a person whom my children, my parents, my spouse, my friends can be proud. Help me to make good choices and have blameless actions; simply put, let me live a life worthy of the calling that I have received.
Bible Reading for Today: Jeremiah 18
Lunch Break Study
Read James 1:22-25
22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. (NIV)
Questions to Consider
- Why do you think James equates self-deceit with “merely listening to the word”?
- What is the importance of obeying the word?
- Are you a doer of the word or merely a listener?
Notes:
- Especially for those of us who are in the church (a lot), there is a tendency to think that listening to messages and going to many meetings makes us obedient and pleasing to God. However, there is no substitute for obedience: To obey is better than the sacrificing of time or resources.
- Obedience leads to God’s blessing; disobedience amounts to foolishness. Although God’s grace is upon all who believe, it is also fair to say that God blesses obedience and punishes disobedience.
- Please be truthful with yourself; do not deceive yourself.
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Evening Reflection
Did you live a life of integrity today? Did you do your best to obey God in matters of thought and action? Do you generally strive to obey Christ because He has purchased your life with His blood?

Let me ask you a question: Are people assets to be used and discarded, or do you genuinely care about them? Is self-love the strongest love in your life right now? If you answered yes to either of these questions, let me remind you this morning of the love of our Lord, who placed the needs of the world over His own and died on the cross for us. Let me also remind you of the love of the Father who did not spare His own Son, but gave Him up for us all (Rom. 8:32). Lastly, let me remind you of the Holy Spirit, who empowers us to love others (all others) more than we love ourselves, which can truly be the greatest human love in the world.

About a month ago, my wife asked me my thoughts on the Brian Williams’ scandal, to which I responded with a blank, inquisitive, and ultimately clueless look. My wife then rebuked me, telling me, “You’ve got to look at more than just sports on the Internet.” She then proceeded to fill me in on the details of how Williams claimed to have been in a helicopter that was shot down in Iraq in 2003, but over ten years later it was reported that he was not on that helicopter. He then claimed to be foggy on the details, and how embarrassing this incident was looking for him.
Every time I read this passage I think, “What is wrong with Saul? He totally fell off the wagon and is setting up idolatrous images of himself,” similar to Nebuchadnezzar’s statue (Dan. 3) or the golden calf (Ex. 33). In other words, I start to self-righteously judge Saul, thinking, “I could never do such an idolatrous thing like that.” But as I read this passage more carefully, I realize that the Bible never says that this monument was supposed to function as a center of idolatry, worshiping Saul. It simply says a “monument for himself.” It could have simply been a pile of rocks celebrating his victory over the Amalekites. In that light, I realized that not only do I set up monuments for myself, but our society is preoccupied with self-monuments. Think about it: Why do people write their names in wet concrete? Why do teenagers who are “in love” carve their names together in trees? Why are Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, etc. so popular? Why does every architect dream of designing a New York skyscraper? I could go on and on.
I cannot prove this scientifically, but I think “Saul” lives at my house in the form of a five-year old boy. I tell my son, “Saul (not his real name), clean up your room.” When I come back five minutes later, I see him in the middle of his still messy room, playing with legos or whatever toy he is into this month. Again, I tell him, “Saul, I told you to clean up your room!” Saul replies, “I did clean up my room. Look, I put the books away.” Sure, the lad has put the books away, but there are still a ton of legos, action figures, and craft supplies out all over the place.
When we think about growing in godliness, there are many factors that we can attribute to positive spiritual growth. We think about dedication to reading God’s word, faithfulness in prayer, serving, attending small group, and the list goes on. But one important thing that we often neglect in our pursuit of godliness is watching how we speak. With the exception of the heart and the mind, the tongue is probably the most sinful part of the body. Think of all the sin that comes out of our mouths: lying, slandering, gossip, put downs, cursing, boasting, just to mention a few.
When I think of Jonathan, the first word that comes to my mind is “friendship.” Biblically speaking, we know Jonathan was the best friend of David, but even in this passage, we see that friendship was a vital part of Jonathan’s leadership style. It’s not difficult to get people to follow you using force, positional power, or even fear and intimidation, but it is entirely a different matter to have people give you their heart and soul. Clearly, there was something special about Jonathan that attracted people’s undivided friendship and loyalty. Even when faced with an impossible situation where Jonathan’s life hung on the balance, his armor bearer was willing to go with him heart and soul, even to death. Wouldn’t we all benefit from a friendship like this?